Become aware of How You Originally Got Addicted to Food
If you have an out of control eating pattern, you might wonder where it came from Did you become an emotional eater because you have specific emotional problems or did some genetic wiring in your brainâ€™s appetite control centre go crazy? Probably not. Emotional eating is the norm at birth for all of us. When a mother feeds her baby, the baby stops crying because the sensation of sucking on something that produces warm sweet delicious nourishment is really soothing. Babies equate their first nourishment with immediate survival, demonstrations of love and a relaxed state of mind. When babies donâ€™t get their motherâ€™s milk, they settle for a substitute – a bottle or a pacifier (dummy) for example. This substitute teat has no warmth, taste, or nutritional value, but itâ€™s close enough to the primal experience to soothe the baby. Itâ€™s natural for us to continuously seek comfort from these soothing situations and easy enough, later in life, to utilize food and eating and drinking as the primal pathway that leads us back to those intensely comforting and reassuring experiences of infancy.
Cognitive behavioural therapy teaches us to become more aware of what weâ€™re doing, to pause before we act and consider the consequences, learning to make better choices and so develop better habits.
The first, and primal, regulating and controlling factor of your mood was often the assumption that you were hungry. If your needs for food and comfort were met, then you will often equate that comfort on some level with food. And if you were given food every time you became moody as a baby and young child instead of receiving a welcome display of love, affection and attention, then food and love will still be linked as a way to get comfort and youâ€™ll find yourself craving food when what you really want is love.
We need to find better ways to create the feelings of love, comfort and acceptance. Learning to accept ourselves unconditionally is the solid foundation on which to build a stronger emotional support base.